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THE WEDDING SPEECHES

 

SPEECHES AND TOASTS-TIPS
SPEECHES AND TOASTS-WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE?
WHO GIVES A SPEECH OR TOAST?
SPEECH SAMPLES
WEDDING TOASTS
RECEPTION
MASTER OF CEREMONIES
MAIN BRIDAL PAGE

 

SPEECHES AND TOASTS-TIPS

The best way to get a wedding speech started is to thank any one and every one important to the bride and groom and every one who helped set up the wedding. Depending on what your role is, you can spend quite a bit of time thanking every one, including the bride and grooms parents for making the wedding possible.

Telling a funny story about either the bride or groom is also a good way to get the speech going smoothly. Make sure the funny story you tell though isn't vulgar or terribly rude and don't go spilling secrets that might hurt the marriage before it even has a chance to get started. This is not the time to air dirty laundry to every one in the family.

Giving the bride and groom some advice that you've learned over the years about relationships, marriage or just general good advice is a great way to end your speech. If you've learnt something over the many years you've lived and you feel like it would benefit the bride and or groom, then by all means, impart your wisdom to them and the entire wedding reception.

the main thing to remember is relax! It's all a bit of fun in the end and as long as you don't insult any one or say anything vulgar and rude, every one will think your speech was great.

break the speech down into things that you should say and things that you might want to avoid, you might have an easier time putting all together in a way that will allow you to express the way you feel without making anyone feel uncomfortable.

WHAT NOT TO SAY

If you are a friend or family member it can be tempting to say that you never thought the person would settle down and get married, that they always had so many dates that you never thought that would find someone to take seriously, but this is not a good time to say this! While it might make everyone chuckle, it might make the bride or groom feel a little badly about their past and might make their new spouse squirm in their seat a little bit. If you know that money has caused tension during the wedding planning process, you should steer clear of that subject as well. 

Generally, you should stick with safe subjects. If you use humor, be sure that it is humor that everyone will appreciate and not a joke that will make anyone feel badly about themselves or someone else. You’ll also want to be sure that you are giving the speech or toast to both the bride and groom.

WHAT TO SAY

You should definitely start out congratulating the new couple and wishing them well. You can share a funny story about the couple, what you thought when you heard they were engaged, or express your simple delight at the fact that they have finally sealed the deal. 

Your speech needn’t be long or overly complicated, just express your feelings and your joy about the new union. You can sort of brain storm and write all of these feelings out on a sheet of paper and then put them together in a format that will create a great speech that infuses your personality as well as your joy for the new couple.

Wedding speeches can be hard to write because often you only know one of the new couple. If this is the case, you should keep things short and sweet. You shouldn’t assume anything about the part of the couple that you do not know, or use any second hand knowledge about the person other than to say that you know they must be very special and you know they are very loved. Simply close your speech by thanking the couple for making you a part of their big day, congratulating them, and then passing the opportunity to give a toast or a speech to another person.

 

SPEECHES AND TOASTS-WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE?


A toast is someone or something in honor of which people usually have a drink, or the drink or honor itself, or the act of indicating that honor. For example, a person could be the toast of the town, for whom someone proposes a toast, after which everyone toasts the honoree.

The act of toasting consists of three parts: The verbal toast, the agreement, and the symbolic drink. In the verbal part, one person states a reason for the toast. This can be as simple as "Cheers!" or "Here's to good friends," or as complex as an anecdote followed by a statement of good will (for example, "Wishing both of you a marriage that lasts forever").

Everyone else present signifies agreement by lifting their drinks into the air, often accompanied by shouted or murmured sounds of agreement, either repeating the toast word ("Cheers!") or confirming the sentiment with terms such as "Hear! Hear!", and often followed by touching one's drinkware (the glass, the mug, and so on) against those of everyone else within reach. The symbolic drink is simply a matter of imbibing some of the drink to confirm the agreement; this can be a quick sip or a long draught, with no particular emphasis indicated either way. 

Many situations in which toasts take place involve alcoholic beverages, usually champagne for particularly special occasions, but there is no requirement that the beverages contain alcohol. Often, drinks are mixed among participants, such as when some people drink sparkling cider instead of champagne.

A toast is really just a few words, basically a cheer, that is offered as you raise a glass for a drink with your buddies. For a wedding, it's a bit more formal, but basically the same thing - it would be something like:

Here's to the husband
And here's to the wife
May they be lovers
The rest of their life.

May you both live as long as you want,
And never want as long as you live.
Wedding toasts are a great way to wish the new couple well, but it can be hard to get it just right if you’ve never done it before. If you feel a lot of emotion about the union, it may be even more difficult to get the toast just right. 

Keeping it simple really helps, as well as keeping it short. Remember that a toast is simply a way to let the new couple know that you are excited for them, and that you were happy that they made you a part of their day. 

The more you try to put into a toast the more complicated it can be, so don’t try to pack too much into the toast.

 
 

WHO GIVES A SPEECH OR TOAST?

There are typically four people who will speak at a wedding. The father of the bride, the best man, the groom and the maid of honor. Of course other people are free to speak as well, but typically these 4 are the main 4 speakers of the wedding. It is not un common for the father of the groom to speak and even bridesmaids.

The brides father usually speaks first. His job is usually to perform a toast or say a small speech and welcome his new son in law into the family permanently. He will usually offer the bride and groom happiness and health and will then thank and welcome the guests for coming. He will also say a few words to the family of the bride.

The groom usually speaks next and he replies on behalf of himself and the bride. This is the opportunity usually to thank the brides parents and relatives. He will also thank his family for all the support they have given him over the years till this point. It's usually a very touching moment between son and family. At this time he will usually thank all the guests for coming, maybe individually singling out a few people and thanking every one for their gifts and presents.

Sometimes the groom will also mention people who wish they were there but couldn't make it for what ever reason. At the end of his speech he will propose a toast to the brides maids and thank them for coming and for the work they did to get the wedding to this point.

The best man will usually speak next and give a funny and heartfelt speech on his experiences with the groom. The best man speech is usually the highlight of the speeches so far and will set the tone for the rest of the wedding reception. He will also tell the bride and groom how lucky they are to have found each other and that he wishes them all the best. He will also thank both parties families and guests for coming and making it such a memorable event.

The maid of honor if she is going to speak will speak now after the best man has made his speech. By this time every one is getting a little sick of speeches so the maid of honor speech is usually short and to the point. She will talk about how she met the bride, how they became close and a few funny incidents along the way. She will also wish the bride and groom all the best for their future ahead of them.